Barriers to honesty - Cont

I have spoken about honesty at reasonable lengths in a couple of previous posts. However, I felt the need to highlight another aspect of barriers to honesty.

Let us say there is couple where one of them is highly understanding, accommodative, essentially having a big heart. He or she is completely in sync with the other person's fallacies and shortcoming. This can give enough room for the other person to be completely honest in expressing whatever he/she wants to (including goof ups). When such a thing happens, it is possible that the other person might feel good about the fact that he/she is completely honest in the relationship. But who should get the credit? The understanding person or the honest person?

Let us say the other person is not reciprocative in terms of understanding and accommodating. Now in some rare situation, his/her partner commits some goof up and wants to come clean. But he/she feels terrified of the consequences. That acts as a barrier to honesty and so he/she finally decides to hide it. So who should get the blame here? The understanding person or the honest person?

I feel being honest is not just the measure of greatness. It is very important to identify the contribution of the person who allows the other person to be honest!!