“I am being honest
now and telling that I was avoiding you”, “I will come clean and
be completely honest”…. We hear people use sentences like these
often. I feel “being honest” is more often used in the context
when one has to confess some wrong doing or when describing a
negative trait one possess. But why? Why not sentences like “I
honestly tell my understanding of this subject is very good?”
“Honestly, I think I m quite deep when it comes to some xyz”. As
a teacher, I have made it a policy to be honest with students and
admit when I don't know answers to certain questions. In fact I take
pride in doing that. But can I be equally honest and say “I think I
am a very good chemistry teacher”? I seldom do that and often leave
it to students to imply what they want.
I
think the reason for such an imbalance is the expectation of false
humility from people. The moment I say positive things about me, I am
at the risk of getting branded as narcissistic, arrogant, egoistic
etc. I also can't be honest when it comes to other people's negatives
(Refer my previous post: “Honesty
is the best policy”.. Really?) . People
expect you to say positive things about them and negative things
about yourself
but not the other
way around. In my opinion, such a skewed
honesty, is not honesty at all!
Am
I arrogant, egoistic and a narcissist for writing this post?? ;-)
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