The dynamics behind how 2 non blood relatives form a relation.
Disclaimer : The below analysis works in the context where there is freedom and opportunity for social interaction. Extreme situations of power, gender hierarchy is out of the scope.
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First impression OR Forced conditions - I think initially people start talking/socializing voluntarily if the first impression (physical, behavioral etc etc) are compelling or there are forced conditions (Teacher student, colleagues, neighbors etc etc)
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Reinforcement/Deinforcement of created impressions OR creation of new impressions - With more and more interaction, if characteristics match the created impression, it continues to strengthen else alternative (Good or Bad) impression starts to get formed. Under forced conditions scenario, a impression starts to get formed assuming there was no strong first impression to begin with (There will always be a little. None of us are so objective in our approaches).
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The Outcome - I would like to invoke a concept here.
A number line to represent the nature of our social interaction.
Unlike the mathematical number line, this has finite numbers on
either side of 0.
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The 0 - This is the absolute neutral state one can
have wrt to the other person. Meaning, the other person is neither
a positive aspect to one's life nor negative. I have nothing to
gain or lose types. He/she just exists in the one's life because
conditions expects that. Eg: A perfectly neutral colleague
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The + side of number line – If the first
impression is good, we already start on the positive side of the
number line wrt the other person. With interaction it can continue
to progress on the positive side. If the first impression is bad,
we already start on the negative side of the number line wrt the
other person. With interaction it can cross 0 and come to positive
side. If started from 0, it will simply move towards + side
- The - side of number line – If the first impression is bad, we already start on the negative side of the number line wrt the other person. With interaction it can continue to progress on the negative side. If the first impression is good, we already start on the positive side of the number line wrt the other person. With interaction it can cross 0 and come to negative side. If started from 0, it will simply move towards – side.
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The 0 - This is the absolute neutral state one can
have wrt to the other person. Meaning, the other person is neither
a positive aspect to one's life nor negative. I have nothing to
gain or lose types. He/she just exists in the one's life because
conditions expects that. Eg: A perfectly neutral colleague
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The limits (A very important aspect according to me)
– The number line concept pretty much exist
universally. But what differs from person to person is the magnitude
of positive and negative numbers. (The positive side and negative
side need not be equal).
- Positive limit - For a person, if the social interaction has reached his/her positive limit (Could vary from small positive to large positive), the he/she wishes/attempts to convert that relation (which has just been in social circle till now) to a personal level. Eg: A very close friend, A mentor, A lover etc etc.
- Negative limit -
For a person, if the social interaction has reached his/her
negative limit (Could vary from small negative to large negative),
then he/she wishes/attempts to break away from that relation and
throw the other person of the social circle.
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